Debate

So I am doing a mommy camp for both my daughters, seperatly. One is eight girls and the other is five. So I finished both my days for one and I have one day left to do for the other daughter. Well, other daughter really wants to go to the mall and play in the arcade. Waste of money, so not something I usually okay, but you know it was with her friends and basically we are just trying to entertain the girls. One of the moms called and said she wasn't comfortable with the mall, it's not a dati place, its not appropriate for the nine days and its not chinuchi(they don't learn anything of value)Okay, so maybe we do things different, we are from America, but I told her I would respect the culture and if she isn't comfortable with it we will find something else. But this opens a whole new bag of worms, here a lot of dati people don't do lot of things, so what do kids do. If you don't let them do anything they tend to rebel and try everything anyway, isn't it better to teach them how to set parameters, how to do things a proper way. Or maybe they have a point, the mall isn't appropriate; different wave of thought now how do we use it in the best way possible.