Happy/Sad

Today was a day of mixed emotions. Firstly, it was sad that we were not at brunch. But we hope everyone else had a good time. Secondly, it was sad because we paid a shiva call. Now we did hear this thing about not going to a shiva houses in the first year and all that, but its not brought down in halacha, so its really more of a suggestion. And the shiva-er is Uncle Avis (who made awesome Sheva Brachot at his house,) fiance. She is also the one who taught me math (although I did fail anyway-i didnt bring that up). So we went and it was a depressing Shiva house. Not like the kind our family make, this was the kind where people sit on the floor and cry, and everyone is quiet. there were a few hundred people there, it was crazy. But on the way to the shiva house we got a call that our friends were making a BBQ. So after being depressed for a while, we went to a good BBQ in Yemin Moshe. So the day was saved. We had hamburgers chicken wings kabobs and hot dogs. Shanys Spanishy friends made the party so i didnt follow most of the conversation, but a guy was playing guitar the whole time and sang "knocking on heavens door" in russian. he made it up but it sounded good anyway. So that was our day. Tomorrow is a school day :-(
IMPORTANT QUESTION: Does everyone say that Ribono shel Olam thing dad says after shalom aleichem? For the second time I made kiddush since marriage (this time at my in kaws house-they werent there, we were babysitting the kids) and I wasnt sure if i should say it. So I followed the rule; When in doubt do without.
One final thing, Shany's third shidduch has just gotten engaged so my wifey is going to heaven!!!